From “I Want to Be a Singer, But I Can’t Do That” to Reclaiming My Voice
For a long time, I carried a dream quietly inside me: I want to be a singer.
But right alongside that dream was a whisper that seemed even louder: I can’t do that.
That sentence held so much — fear, doubt, comparison, and years of unspoken emotion. It wasn’t just about singing; it was about my worth, my right to take up space, and my belief in what was possible for me.
When I first started exploring my voice, I thought learning to sing was about technique — pitch, breath, tone. But as I went deeper, I began to see that my real work was emotional. Singing became a mirror that reflected all the places I didn’t yet trust myself to be seen or heard.
Every time I opened my mouth to sing, it stirred something deeper. Old memories, self-criticism, even moments from childhood where my voice wasn’t welcomed or valued. But as I kept showing up, I discovered something powerful: the more I allowed my voice to come through — imperfections and all — the more I began to feel whole.
The inner transformation that singing gave me wasn’t just about my sound; it was about knowing who I am. It helped me understand what I value, what I believe in, and why my message matters. And knowing that has allowed me to step forward as the messenger — not waiting for permission or perfection, but singing because it feels true.
Now, when I sing, it’s not about performance or approval. It’s about connection — to myself, to others, to something greater. And that’s what I want for you too.
If you’ve ever whispered to yourself, I want to sing, but I can’t do that, I invite you to take a gentle step toward reclaiming your voice. Your story deserves to be heard — even if it starts with a whisper.
Reflection Exercise: Uncovering Your Singing Story
Take a few quiet moments with a notebook or journal.
Breathe deeply and allow yourself to connect with your memories and feelings as you reflect on these questions:
- What messages did you receive about singing as you were growing up?
- Were you encouraged, or did you hear things like “Don’t sing so loud” or “You’re not a good singer”?
- How did media and pop culture influence your beliefs about what makes a “real” singer?
- Did you watch competitions, TV shows, or listen to professional singers and feel you couldn’t measure up?
- Have you ever silenced yourself or hesitated to sing because you feared judgment or rejection?
- How did that affect you?
- Looking at your life now, how do cultural pressures still influence your willingness to express your voice?
- Do you find yourself holding back, comparing, or dismissing your desire to sing?
- If you could let go of those old beliefs, how might your relationship with singing change?
- What would it feel like to sing just for the joy of it?
Write down whatever comes up — no censoring, no judgment.
This is for you — a first step toward reclaiming your voice.
If you’re ready to step into the unknown – I’m here and would love to help you!
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